it depends state to state you can ask for more too depending on the amt the guy has. also a considerate man would leave his wife with enough, screw the rules

sounds like someone got married, just to get her husbands money... with a good lawyer, i'm sure you could swindle your soon-to-be-ex out of half his money!!!

It depends on the judge. The judge is the law. It could be 60 days or 60 years or never.

I'm sorry, I don't know the laws of Virginia...however, having gone through the very painful divorce process myself, I'd encourage you to consider what is morally right and not what some legal precedent permits. To understand alimony, you need to look back to the late 1800's/early 1900's. At that time, you could have a man with a wife and 6 kids find another woman and run off and leave the family. The woman had little opportunity to work (even many school teachers were required to be single)...hence, often left the families destitute.... Eventually, the legal system caught up and said that this was unfair and that he should pay alimony.... over time, this was "bastardized" to the point that if Tiger Woods' wife did all that he supposedly did, and if she had didn't have a prenup, she would still get alimony in most states (if it was a long enough marriage)... Note that even in Tiger's case, that they had a prenup...yet the legalized extortion is starting for her to ask for far more. The interesting thing is that if you look at your situation...what's the most money that, if you were single for your life, you would have made? Now, for a few years of marriage, you are now looking to reap much more than that... why? what does the marriage have to do with it? Presumably, you both enjoyed the friendship and closeness. Just because he worked hard to be successful, went to school, invested his skills and became more successful, you are, effectively, claiming that his success is due to you and your marriage - at least in part. Do you really think this? It might be true if you helped him build his business (you were the marketer for the business)... however, it doesn't sound that way... and just because you like your new lifestyle, doesn't mean that you really deserve it going forward when you are about to destroy him emotionally. It's the concept of unjust enrichment...unfortunately, the legal system is a tad based on legalized extortion... the cost of defending yourself is so high that eventually you capitulate or go bankupt on legal fees. You sound like you started off life with many challenges.... you now sound like you want to instill/penalize another person (who loved you and you loved him - at least for some time) for the rest of your life not because you're deserving - but because of a legal sysem that was put in place to take care of gross inequity is now abused. I encourage you to ask yourself as to where would you be now if you hadn't gotten married? If you started with nothing, and you could only early minimum wage and receive disability payments, then you'd still have nothing... Thank your God for having had the opportunity to see a different side and that you have learned that you enjoyed the nicer things in life, but didn't like the person you had to be with to get them... Remember, you will face your God some day... do you want Him or Her to give you what you truly deserve? What would He or She want you to do?.

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